THIS THING CALLED LOVE

 might face a lot of stick on the road but

still comes through,

even though it does most times when hope is lost, 

it's a mere test of time. 

Everyone at a certain time fall in love, found that dude that makes you tick, that makes you go wild and could decide your happiness at times due to your dependent attitude and trust towards him. The guys also get slapped in the face with the breath of life, with the joy from within which her presence brings. It makes you feel unnecessarily up for the day, full of euphoria, and hope. That's what loves brings.

   It fills you with an extra energy from within, with lots of confidence in your self after he/she turns your shield from the harsh world of boredom. Love is life, love is in you, it's in me, it moves like a wave of fresh air, from one beautiful soul to another. Just like electricity, its connects, moves within wires of feelings, lights up the air, but surprisingly shocks, but does it hurts?, does it bleed?, if not, then what about the tears?, what about the broken heart?, is it LOVE?

   Perhaps, Love is one of the most wrongly used words in the universe because, at every point of contact or meeting, the other party tends to immediately fall in love at first sight. It has become a norm, the word  'I LOVE YOU', misused, abused, uttered when not to. Why don't you come out plain and tell her the truth, you don't love her, but the right word should be 'I WANT TO LOVE YOU' because, at that point, you haven't fallen in love yet. Yes, you liked her a lot, Yes, you day dream about her in your arms cuddling all night, but love comes to life when your feeling is put through the test of time, then you both be convinced, it's Love indeed.  

you are never too old for that, nobody gets too old to be cared for

   Every human deserves to be loved, deserved to be cuddled like a baby, you are never too old for that, nobody gets too old to be cared for. We all have the right to love someone and be loved in return, no matter the tribe, religion, your skin colour, your level of education, and equally be loved back. Make your choice, you have many, make the one that makes you happy, not the one that promises to. Don't allow your judgement be clouded by your feelings, what you make of the person through your heart, make use of your head, because when the heart tends to be weak and take in a lot to produce, the brain stands firm and resolute.

Moreover, some guys find it really difficult to fathom why a lady stood by their side for so long, despite the ups and downs. Well here are Five key reasons why some relationship stood firm in the face of the wind.

If you have no fond memories of your love life,
it's not too late to create one.

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• SUSTAINED TRUST: Before love at all, there exist trust between a pair, they tend to have the mindset of, 'she got my back'. This makes your partner feel safe and fills he/she with confidence in the relationship. And in a case where there is an issue, it fills the gap for you and makes it easy to let go of any grudges, even in a situation where the issue drags on, it gives you hope and reassurance that 'he knows what i can do, and he knows i can't hurt him'.

• FIGHTS: It's funny how little fights and quarrel in a relationship makes it thick and gives it continuity. As for me, even if you want to avoid the naughty quarrel am coming with, i won't get pushed back and make sure we have it, lol, its fun trust me. The little quarrel you have with your partner at times gives you an insight into who he/she really is and makes it easier to handle him/her better next time to avoid the big clash. Hints *fight more*, lol.

• ADVENTURES: Movie nights, Dinner dates, romantic plays, Shopping, all this even up to taking her on a walk at night, holding hands in the crowd, cracking her up and unexpectedly surprising her plays a big part in creating a memory in her mind that last for a long time. What is the purpose of love without life, what is life without memory, sweet adventures, all this makes her sit down and just start smiling even when you are not there, that is because she remembers a funny scene between you two. If you have no fond memories of your love life, it's not too late to create one.

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• COMMUNICATION: Talk and listen. Create a room for dialogue, gist, have fun with words, light up the atmosphere with jokes, make her laugh, make her stumble off the chair while laughing, make the atmosphere friendly enough for her to express that deepest thought on her mind. This goes a long way in making her feel comfortable in the relationship and confidence in good yet to come.

• HAVE A FUTURE: A lot of times a relationship crashes as a result of commitment or lack of it. Set the bar high and work towards it, let her know your plans and be plain enough to stick with it. Even though at the start it's hard to predict where the tree would fall, but perhaps while doing all the above mentioned, you will within you find an answer if so let it be known at the right time, because this makes your partner know their stand.

   The other day I was having a chat with a friend of mine, she just got engaged, was so happy for her even though I would have accepted such offer with open arms, she is such a rare gem and a beautiful soul. I turned the discussion around and jokingly ask her to recommend me for one of her beautiful friends, to my surprise, they are all taken, wow! that's something I exclaimed. After a while, I said if only I was the one she got engaged to, it would have been a prayer accepted and a fate joined, and she was like meaning?
   "I said, for an accepted prayer, it could be a wish, a long term one, might face a lot of stick on the road but still comes through, even though it does most times when hope is lost, it's a mere test of time. Perhaps there is always a story behind a victory. But for fate, it's inevitable, at times cruel but surely comes to pass. No prayers could really change that, if you feel your prayers did change it, then that means they are all part of your journey". 

   Most love stories come at a cost of your patience, endurance, tolerance and perseverance. It could be cruel at times, it could wear you both out, but take note of a thing, love doesn't hurt, people do, and when this happens, love is there to pick them up and keep them on their feet. 
Ladies tend to be the one hit hardest by the punch, it gets them destabilised, heart-broken, they can't just figure what just happens, even though we have guys who suffer the same harsh reality, they just tend to be more of a victim in terms of numbers. That is why when trading your stock in the market of love, your head is the one to be trusted and not your heart or feelings, most times it's too soft to see the reality, therefore, be-clouding your judgements. Look before you leap, it saves you some tears.
   

 Not all love leads to marriage, but a well-executed feeling towards your partner makes it hard to let go, and therefore most times marriage comes to mind. Don't be fooled, don't push it, most people go all in and makes it a priority to marry their partner no matter what, a lot of people have suffered because of this mindset, try and know him better, study him, ask yourself questions, check and balance, Is it Love that i am feeling? It's not too late to make amends because this thing called love comes around, and own you for life, and if it's not love, then it's nothing, no room for bad vibes.

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